Opening Up to Weight Release

When we say that someone is irrational we are usually referring to someone who reacts or makes quick rash decisions from an emotionally charged state.  This is an imbalance that must be addressed in order to heal and release weight.  The skill we work to develop with people who struggle with this type of response pattern is called “the conscious compassionate observer”.  This specific skill helps interrupt emotionally triggered reactions and create a space to analyze the circumstances before making a decision.  We refer to this as expanding the space between stimulus and response in order to make self-honoring choices.

 Conversely, someone who is hyper-rational – who overanalyzes everything – is also out of balance.  This type of person tends to be paralyzed by a tendency to question and doubt the process.  They over-think everything.  We often say that this kind of person is “in their head” – suggesting that they are disconnected from their feelings.  The decision making process, which they think is rational, is actually irrational because it does not account for feelings, intuition, intimacy, etc.

 When we work with this type of personality (or persona) it is important to explore emotions and find outlets to express feelings.  We also must look at fear – as this behavior tends to suggest a defensive stance that was taken early in childhood to protect the persons vulnerability.  The person must come to recognize and honor their fears.  It can be very helpful to examine shame and guilt – as these misinterpretations have usually contributed to the pattern of over-rationalizing.  Compassion is the primary tool used to interrupt this pattern.